Core Goals

Self-Respect Effectiveness

Act in a way you can respect afterwards.

Purpose

Helps you stay true to your values and maintain self-respect during interpersonal situations.

What it Means

Self-Respect Effectiveness is about acting in a way that fits your values, even when the situation is uncomfortable.

Main Skill

FAST is the main DBT skill for Self-Respect Effectiveness.

Example

Someone asks you to do something that goes against your values. Self-Respect Effectiveness means being fair, truthful, and clear without unnecessary apologies.

Try It Now

1 Think of one situation where you feel pressured.
2 Ask, "What value do I want to stand by here?"
3 Choose one FAST behaviour to practise.

When to use

Pressure from others Saying no Boundary setting Guilt People pleasing