Relationship Effectiveness
Maintain or improve the relationship.
Purpose
Helps you communicate in a way that protects the relationship while still addressing the situation.
What it Means
Relationship Effectiveness is about considering how your words and actions affect the relationship, not just whether you get your immediate goal.
Main Skill
GIVE is the main DBT skill for Relationship Effectiveness.
Example
You need to raise an issue with your partner. Relationship Effectiveness means being honest while staying gentle, interested, validating, and respectful.
Try It Now
1
Think of a relationship that matters to you.
2
Ask, "How do I want this person to feel after this conversation?"
3
Choose one GIVE behaviour to practise.
When to use
Important relationships
Conflict
Sensitive conversations
Repairing connection
Giving feedback